Sunday, April 13, 2025

A Week in Michigan with Don and Ruth

 
The totally unexpected and serendipitous week with sister, Ruth, and hubby Don in Lansing, Michigan, was because of sister Susan's funeral that mid-week in Chicago, on March 26.  

The short story is that Don and Ruth had just moved in January back to Michigan (our family's home state) after 5 years in Maine.  So, besides everything else, this was our first chance to see their new home, which is just fabulous.  

But this isn't about their new house/home (though you'll get glimpses of it) as much as it is about more family time because of a baby shower for one of our nieces that had been in the works long before Susan waved goodbye.

As we often say, when someone dies, a baby is born.  In other words, Death and Birth live side by side.

Astrid and I flew direct from Amsterdam to Detroit on Sunday, March 23, where Don and Ruth picked us up approximately 1.5 hours' drive from their home.  It was a cozy, warm and wonderful time between then and Tuesday when we left for the almost 4-hour drive from Lansing, MI, to Chicago, IL, for the visitation and then Wednesday's funeral, leaving back for Lansing on Thursday.  We even had the chance to watch the 8-part series of The Residence on Netflix during the nights we were at their home alone!

Oh, and not to forget that we 4 booked the same room (with 2 queen beds) at our hotel in Chicago!  That's how comfortable (and cheap, ha!) we are with each other.  A no-brainer!

Here's a visual of the drive, around the bottom part of Lake Michigan, approx. 240 miles.
Susan had lived in the Chicago area all her life after attending Northwestern at age 18.  I even lived near her for a year and saw her every weekend while studying Greek and theology, in the middle of my linguistics training at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor.  So this is all part of my growing-up memory!

Once back in Lansing, Astrid and I both took a walk around Don and Ruth's new neighborhood
along the Grand River--the same river that runs through Grand Ledge 10 miles west, where I grew up.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
And because the walking put me in the mood, I continued my exercise,
doing a small part in preparation for the baby shower the next day!

[photo credit:  Astrid]
The funeral was on Wednesday (3/26); the baby shower was on Saturday (3/29) from 2-4 pm.
Jennifer, the mom-to-be, is the daughter of sister, Nancy (to the right of me, top-right).
It so happens that Jennifer lives in New York and was having her own baby shower there
while family in Michigan (at Don and Ruth's) were virtually joining in via Zoom.
Michigan family had already sent their gifts to NY, where Jennifer opened them there.
What a hoot.  Have you ever heard of such a thing?!

Speaking of Nancy, she and hubby Juan arrived on Friday to spend the night, helping with
the shower prep.  All Astrid and I did was make the veggie plate and smile.

[photo credit:  Peter and Astrid]
The virtual part all kinda, sorta worked...while we did our own thing, enjoying each other.
Most of us had just been at the funeral, but this was different.
Of the 6 remaining sibs, 4 of us with spouses were present, plus our Thai Dee Dee.
But this time, Ruth and Don's son's family, not at the funeral, joined us.
See them on the couch (bottom-left)?  And Peter with me (top-right)?
Pay attention because we'll see them again on Sunday.

[photo credit:  Peter]
Peter's wife Andrea Mowry, over whom we're hovering, happens to be a world-renown knitter,
with some of her patterns translated into Spanish, French, Czech, Japanese, etc.
And, yes, she has her own Ravelry Shop for knitting fanatics.

[photo credit:  Astrid and Ginnie]
After Saturday's shower, Sunday's departure came way too quickly.
On the way to the airport, we treated Don and Ruth to a "healthy" breakfast at Anna's House...

[photo credit:  Astrid and Peter]
before stopping off to see Peter and Andrea's new house (after also moving back from Maine).
Of special interest was Andrea's work space up on the top floor, even with her loom.
(No photo of her spinning wheel, from which she spins much of her own yarn.)
It really is a huge business, beyond even my own imagination!

[photo credit:  Astrid]
Back downstairs, Peter then moved me to tears when he took off his cardigan hoodie, with its
gorgeous basket-weave pattern and smoky-blue color, and gave it to me.  I had oohed and aahed
about it because it really IS beautiful, a hoodie, AND a cardigan, as well as my color.
No wonder he's my favorite nephew in the whole wide world!

[photo credit:  Ruth]
Don't you just love his smile!  He makes us ALL smile!
BTW, he's Peter Mowry, a musical artist whose background tunes have been heard world-wide.
It's possible even YOU have heard something he's created for a brand.

[photo credit:  Ruth]
What a happy family, including Levi and Olive!
It's just too bad that sister Lesley's similar family of 4 in Texas couldn't be in on the reunion.
Both Lesley and Peter were my favorite niece and nephew throughout their childhood and youth.
Don and Ruth can be so proud of them all.  

[photo credit:  Peter]
On that note, we 4 had our own parting shot before driving to the Detroit airport.

It's always a tear and a smile when we get together with family like this,
never knowing if or when we'll ever meet again.
But for now, it's the smile that counts.
It's all that really matters.


Thursday, April 10, 2025

Susan Elizabeth Hart Leys

 
It was bound to happen, sooner or later.  After 29 years, when brother, Bennett, died in 1996 at age 47, the first of us 8 kids, it was sister Susan's turn, the beginning of what will now more quickly be the rest of us.  It's sobering to say it, but it's the truth we all now face at our age.

Bennett is #5 of us.  Susan is #2 and two years my senior.

As you can see, the visitation and funeral in Chicago, IL, were 2 weeks after her death,
giving all of us plenty of time to make travel arrangements.  It was a no-brainer
for Astrid and me from the Netherlands, the farthest, to join the family.

The visitation on Tuesday was made more memorable by the surprise condolences of Steven, one of
our Shutterchance virtual and faithful followers who lives only 30 miles from the funeral home.
We'll never forget his act of kindness and our chance to meet in real life.

It was the funeral on Wednesday, however, that brought us all together in our final hours of goodbye to Susan.  

[photo credit:  Astrid]
As we gathered in the church's anteroom, we sibs tried to hold it all together,
tears and smiles ebbing and flowing...

[photo credit:  Astrid]
...before the obligatory "official" photos were taken.
We are now the 6 remaining sibs, including our adopted Thai sister, DeeDee.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
The 4 boys are now 3 (l to r):  Jim #6, Nelson #1, and John #7.
The 4 girls are now 3 (l to r):  Ruth #8, Dee Dee, Boots/moi #3, and Nancy #4.
Susan #2 and Bennett #5 are sorely missed from this lineup!
And, yes, we girls wore our version of Susan's favorite color, pink.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
Then came Susan's only child Shari with her 3 daughters.

By then it was time for the service, in the church where Susan and husband Rodger were members.
There was an hour's viewing of Susan before the 11am service, after which the casket was closed.

[photo credit:  Paul Hart, nephew]
Susan's husband Rodger stood with his son, Eric, giving one of the eulogies that touched me
the most with it's history and humor of Rodger and Susan's life together, starting at 36:30.
Also, my brother Jim's solo On Eagle's Wings at 14:50.

[photo credit:  Paul Hart, nephew]
Following the service was the interment at a nearby cemetery.
We 6 sibs, plus Dee Dee, were the honorary pallbearers.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
The gravestone.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
After the interment was the luncheon put on by the church.
As the sign says, Susan LOVED Pepsi (NOT COKE) and Dr. Pepper, with lots of ice.
In honor of her, I drank my first Dr. Pepper in eons.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
It was after lunch when the cousins wanted their own lineup, in support of Shari.
They represent the children of 5 of us sibs who were able to attend, l to r:
Dave (Nelson), Stacy and Nate (Jim), Shari (Susan), Eric (Nancy), Amy (moi), Paul (Jim).

And YES, that's my daughter Amy who flew from Atlanta to support me.
Like with Steven, it's a gesture I never expected and will never forget.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
This time they included the spouses who were able to come!

[photo credit:  Astrid's phone by Kathy, niece-in-law???]
Followed by us sibs with OUR spouses, all present and accounted for
(except, sadly, for John and wife Sandy who had already headed back home)!

By then it was time to go back to our hotels, or wherever, to rest before our final get-together as an extended family that evening at the Olive Garden.

[photo credit:  Astrid]
It was a different goodbye this time, before going back to life as normal.
As so often happens, joy and laughter with each other reminded us to live in the moment,
while still hanging on to the memory of Susan.

Susan would have loved this celebration of her life!  She would turn 82 in May, just before I turn 80 in June, and will always be my big sister, even though I had minimal contact with her over the last years of her life.  All I know is that after a lifetime of untold physical ailments, of which rheumatoid vasculitis was one of the last, she is FREE AT LAST!

A TEAR and a SMILE!

P.S.  This post is not about the week's trip Astrid and I made to Michigan for this goodbye to Susan, staying with Don and Ruth at their new home in Lansing.  That's another post waiting in the wings....


Thursday, April 03, 2025

Selective Coloring

 
Another book, yes!  (This one, again, is for my children, before I'm dead and buried.  And not to worry--the well will run dry soon enough!)  

The book explains what "selective coloring" is and how it's done photographically, using 129 of my images.

Click on this Selective Coloring link and then click on the book.
Then click on "Full Screen" in the top-right corner.
(The book is 12x12 inches, 110 pages, 129 photos.)

Or, if you're already at my In Soul photoblog, you can go to my left sidebar and click on the book there under My Photo Books, which will redirect you to this page.


A Week in Michigan with Don and Ruth

  The totally unexpected and serendipitous week with sister, Ruth, and hubby Don in Lansing, Michigan, was because of sister Susan's fun...